How do I know if I have any sexual blocks?
I have designed the following questions to help you to take an inventory of yourself.
a. On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? 1= very unhappy, 10=living in bliss
b. On a scale of 1-10, how stress are you? 1= no stress, 10 = on the verge of a melt down
c. On a scale of 1-10, how intense are your orgasms? 1 = just a release of semens, 10= my whole body vibrates with ecstasy
d. On a scale of 1-10, how comfortable and confident you are with yourself? 1= never feel good enough, 10 = I love and accept myself just the way I am
e. Are you carrying emotional baggages of hurt, shame, anger, guilt etc?
f. Does your friends or loved one comment on your low energy in general?
6 ways to clear sexual blocks
1. Go inside
No, not going inside the yoni of your lover but go inside yourself. Go learn meditation, yoga, tai chi or just spend some quiet reflection time each day and go inside your heart to start feeling.
Any form of exercise is good, especially if is done in nature. However, to clear blocks, I will recommend to dance. Is not about how well you dance, so long as you move freely and feel your body, that is good enough. You can start by dancing in front of a mirror or just spend 5 min in the bathroom to move your body. Just be flexible and move and have fun.
I cannot emphasise how important this is. Most clients I see are not breathing deep. Remember, breath is life, how you breathe is how you live. Start paying attention to your breath. The natural optimal way of breathing is through your diaphragm. When you breathe in, your belly should rise and when you breathe out, your belly will fall. Breathe like a baby again. You will never see a baby with shallow breathing.
When we were young, we laugh up to 300 times in a day. How often do you laugh in a day now? Laughter has been proven scientifically to be good for physical and emotional health. Learn to laugh for no reason. I am a certified laughter yoga leader and will be running some laughter session soon. Meanwhile, laugh for no reason and bring in some playfulness in life again and have fun.
5. Release emotional baggages and past trauma
Most of us have old wounds and past trauma. I had lots of emotional baggages in the past and sexually block and suppressed. It took me few years of inner work partnering with different therapists to release my own emotional baggages and trauma. My preferred releasing technique is a conscious connected breathing technique (rebirthing/breathwork) that was developed in the 70s in the United States. My own personal life was transformed drastically because of breathwork and that was why I embarked on the journey of becoming a breathworker in 2009.
Lingam/yoni massage or other form of bodywork like kahuna massage, rolfing is a good way to clear sexual blocks. My personal favourite bodywork is yoni massage and kahuna massage. For those of you looking at kahuna massage, I will highly recommend my therapist and dear friend, Roger Curtis. He comes to Singapore regularly to give sessions. You may email me for more information.
There is no miracle pill to clearing sexual blocks. It saddened me sometime to see clients who are obviously not happy and suppressed in life but yet no commitment to change. Usually they disappear after one session as they see no result (since they are block, they cannot feel any orgasmic energy). I wish I can perform miracles but it is not realistic to expect all blocks that one carry for years to be cleared in one session. The desire to change is the first step and each of us are responsible for our change. Any therapist can only facilitate and support you in clearing your blocks.